“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” – Barak Obama
Regardless of your political affiliation, these are wise words spoken by the President of our great nation. When it comes to changing ourselves, we cannot rely on others – only we can produce the change we seek. Yet there are times it seems so hard. What can we do to make change a reality?
– Start Small: The worst thing you can do when trying to make a big change in your life is biting off more than you can chew. This can lead to feelings of failure, disappointment and a lack of motivation to persist.
– Write Down Your Motivations: If we know why we’re making a change, it’s a lot easier to want to do the hard work to see the results. These can also serve as reminders when it gets tough to continue (because it will!) and help you to persevere.
– Pick Milestones: By picking smaller changes (as stated above) we can also set up smaller milestones to achieve before moving on to the next one. Before we know it, suddenly we’re well on our way to seeing the big change become a reality.
– Be Consistent: They say it takes 21 days to create a new habit or to break a bad one. It’s going to take time and it’s going to take persistence. As we power through and dedicate our efforts to making the changes that are important to us, we’ll find that they become habit, even second nature. The longer we are consistent, the easier it will be to sustain.
– Be Patient with Yourself: Nobody has ever said change is easy and if they did, they’re lying. It’s possible that making a new change will be something you have to work at constantly and challenge you to the limit – but remember to be kind to yourself. If you fall short, start again. As long as you are striving to make forward progress, no matter how small, that’s what matters.
Change may be difficult, challenging and even scary. But it is possible. It is possible for you to make the changes that will lead to a better life and a better you.