Dear Emi, Emi Lou Who, Bem Bem, Gup Gup, Bucket, Seester (so many WEIRD nicknames for you!),
I remember a time when you didn’t exist yet. I actually remember telling people when they asked me how many siblings I had, repeating like a robot “one brother, no sisters”.
Then I decided that needed to change. I loved our brother, of course! But a girl needs a sister. So I prayed. In my little child prayers, I prayed so hard for a little sister. Finally one day, mom and papy sat us down and told us mom was pregnant, but we weren’t allowed to tell anybody yet. So of course the first thing I did was run over to the neighbors to tell them. Note: Never tell a 5 year old something you don’t want other people to know.
I knew you would be a girl. I don’t think it even occurred to me you could possibly be another brother because I knew this was an answer to my prayers.
There was a show I loved at the time and the little sister in the family was named Emily, so that’s what I figured your name should be. When they named you Emilia I just told everyone it was Emily in Spanish so that I felt like I still got the name I wanted. I had prayed you here! I deserved to have a part in naming you, right?
As we grew up, our 6 year age difference meant we were never in a similar time of life and I was very firmly the big sister. I think this bothered you and ever since you were little you have tried not only to keep up with me but “beat” me. Don’t deny it, I know you! 😉
We’ve had our ups and our downs as siblings do. Your teenage years were especially fun as nearly every phone call home ended with you getting mad and hanging up on me. I was a brat and knew when I was pushing your buttons and didn’t care. Eventually, we learned how to be nice to each other and I really started loving when we ended our conversations on a happy note. It was sooo much better!
The older you have gotten, the more I can see our relationship developing into a friendship. We still get mad at each other – we have never been anything if not blunt with each other…sometimes too blunt – but overall I love the direction our sistership is heading. I love being your friend and not just your big sister.
Now we are in the time of life when “what’s next” is a little messy. I’m so used to blazing the trail for you, making mistakes and learning better ways of doing things and then sharing my hard earned wisdom so you don’t have to make those same mistakes. You are stubborn and have still done what you have wanted and that’s just fine. That’s how you learn. Even though I have already gone down paths you are still figuring out, there is one area of life you have always been better at than me – the love life side. Now here you are, my baby sister, getting married and marriage still a foreign concept to me.
I love you, kid. I love you so much. So I have been working really hard to be genuinely happy, to be excited for you and look forward to this HUGE event in your life. Because, if the roles were reversed, that’s what I would want from you. I would want my sister’s support. And I want you to know that I’m there. I am soo happy for you. I am so excited to welcome Trevor into the family. He fits so well. I admit, I have always wondered what kind of boy could handle you. You are wonderful but definitely strong and independent and I wondered what kind of boy could be a good co-captain for you, a partner and support you while also calling you out on your crap. Every girl needs a boy like that, because let’s be honest, we all have our things. I have been very impressed and felt so much relief as I’ve watched him know exactly how to calm you down, how to make you smile and how to be your best friend. I’m so glad you found him. No matter when this happened in your life, there is nothing more I could have wished for you.
So on this, your wedding day, I just want you to know I love you, I am so proud of the woman you are becoming and I’m excited for the next chapter in your life. You have such a determined spirit, you are a hard worker and I know together you and Trev will accomplish great things in this life. You are a great pair. But remember that even though he gets to be your husband, I’m the only one who gets to be your sister and I had dibs on you first. 😉
I love you forever and ever, Babe! HUGE congratulations.
P.S. Welcome to the family, Trevor. You’re in for a wild ride.