I have nothing against Valentine’s Day. Though I have never had a Valentine on this day of love, it is a day that involves a lot of chocolate, gifts and cards from family and usually a chick flick. What’s not to like?!
Though it is meant to be a holiday celebrating love, Valentine’s Day is one of the most openly hated holidays of the year. Whether you are single or in a relationship (or somewhere in between), you may find yourself part of the Valentine’s haters club. But in a world already so full of miserable things, why inflict yourself with another day of feeling bad? Here are some common excuses for hating Cupid’s day and reasons why you should actually love it instead. After all, it is a day of love!
Hate #1: Valentine’s Day is a reminder of your single status/lost love/divorce/tragic love life.
Love #1: If you are looking for a reason to feel down, you can find it regardless of the date on the calendar. So keep your attitude in check and use Valentine’s as an excuse to pamper yourself! Show yourself some love with a special treat, like a massage, a pedicure, or a night at the climbing gym. If you are recently divorced, check out these additional tips.
Hate #2: Expressions of love on this day are forced and driven by commercial hype. You should not have to be told to show your loved ones that you care for them.
Love #2: Love should be expressed at all times of the year, not just on February 14. However, why turn down an opportunity to show your love? Take full advantage of this chance to show your significant other how much they mean to you not only on Valentine’s Day, but every day.
Hate #3: If you are just starting to see someone or are in the “what are we” phase, it is an awkward time of year. You do not want to create any unnecessary pressure, but you are not sure of the expectations.
Love #3: What a great opportunity to practice your communication skills in this blossoming relationship! Decide what it is you want and go into the conversation ready to express your desire to either spend time together that day or do your own thing. Treat it like any other potential date night and decide if you would like to make plans together.
Hate #4: Singles occasionally encounter looks of pity from happily taken individuals.
Love #4: This is one of those things you will just need to learn to brush off. Happiness should never be dependent on relationship status. So let people be happy in their circumstances, choose to be happy in yours, and if this still bothers you, stick to places that are less likely to be overrun by couples.
Hate #5: Girls nights are sad and pathetic.
Love #5: Only if you let them be that way! Girls nights, for any occasion, can be full of laughter, stories, maybe a little girl talk, but mostly a lot of fun with your girlfriends. Everyone needs a good dose of girlfriend time, so embrace it in February. Thank V-Day for giving you a great excuse to get together!
Hate #6: In an act of desperation, some people call up ex’s or make poor social decisions in an effort to relieve loneliness.
Love #6: Remember these emotions come from thinking worth depends on relationship status, which could not be farther from the truth. Don’t reach out to anyone from your past or try to start something with someone new just because it’s Valentine’s Day. If someone from your past contacts you, be kind, but also be firm in declining their invitation. The best way to move forward is to avoid any road trip to the past.
Hate #7: Restaurants are packed and getting a reservation can be nearly impossible.
Love #7: If you are in a relationship, this is a great time to create your own romance at home and cook a meal together if you cannot get into a restaurant. If you are single, get some friends together and enjoy a fun night in. You can even order takeout and enjoy most of the perks of going out to eat, without all the hassle. No matter your status, you can always make reservations at your favorite restaurant for another night.
Valentine’s Day can be a stressful day, regardless of your relationship status. But you can make it a sweet holiday to enjoy with those you care about whether it be your best friends or a significant other. Let go of the hate and allow yourself to truly love and enjoy Valentine’s Day.